The church has reached a difficult crossroads when it comes to pre–marriage romance.
We no longer have rituals of courtship and arranged marriage to guide us every step of the way. It's also spawned a whole range of opinions and advice on how to handle dating.
Once they've done that, God increases his sustaining presence.
I'm not saying that God doesn't have a will regarding your dating life.
But, as in all things, it's best to ask for his guidance.
The Bible promises he will provide that whenever we ask.
German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.
There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.All they have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.The good news is that most men don't have a problem with this.Regardless of your theology on the Predestination of Girlfriends, you're probably eager to be an active participant in your dating life. Myth #2: "The Bible has clearly defined guidelines for dating." People didn't date in biblical times.Whom you married wasn't even up to you most of the time.Falling in love before you got married or engaged is a twentieth–century concept. In college, I had an older professor from Japan whose marriage had been arranged.God may, in fact, have a spunky brunette in mind, and he's steering you toward her as you read this.But the Bible does not promise that God will provide a loving relationship for you while you sit around and do nothing.He made fun of modern dating, saying, "By the time you get married now, the fun is over.In an arranged marriage, the fun starts after the wedding!