And that goes double when revealing your relationship would mean, for all intents and purposes, coming out of the closet.Because you might not be gay, but you sound just as terrified as any kid who is, and who knows that an important part of his identity is anathema to the people who raised him.The private details of what's in a person's pants aren't meant to be public knowledge, under any circumstances.So if you really feel that you must tell your parents you're dating, then perhaps you can give them the expurgated version: you're seeing someone, and that someone is a guy. That is, if your boyfriend passes as male, and is comfortable doing so.And if they find out that I've changed my view on that, I can't even imagine what they'll do to me. Fun fact: if we gave out awards for Most Complicated and Sensitive Question Ever, this one would win, hands down.Seriously, y'all, my brain is currently making that bzzzzz fzzzzz noise that lightbulbs make right before the filament blows.But if not, then you're in one hell of a bind, sweet pea.
But since I've met my boyfriend, I realized how wrong I was.
Think of it as a decision you've made together: to date not in secret, but in private, for the sake of enjoying your relationship without bogging it down in a mire of labels and judgments and questions.
That is a legitimate choice, and one you're perfectly entitled to.
But if you can't, then you don't have much choice but to keep your relationship under the radar.
But that's okay, and it's not the most terrible thing in the world, either.