I would be hyped if Aziz ended up with [a] Priya or [a] Mindy [or] even briefly dated a Kartika.
They aren’t even selling a movie—that’s just TV and they already have an existing platform.” “I will say that this doesn’t particularly irk me in the case of The Big Sick.
There’s a difference in pursuing a partner because they offer you privilege than pursuing a partner because they won’t abuse you.
That being said, these are ostensibly fictionalized relationships (or at least dramatized).
In The Big Sick and Meet the Patels, both Nanjiani and Patel are being set up for an arranged marriage.These men had to go through them to reach their white women at the end.This is what it means to be a south Asian woman onscreen, you remain the punchline, the afterthought, the add-on, or the barely-explored B story. When I forward this argument online or in conversation, there are inevitably two responses: Well, this is the only way to sell a script in white Hollywood, some say. Regarding the first one, I’d say that’s a ridiculous reason to not explore relationships between people of color.Why are brown men so infatuated with white women onscreen, Buzz Feed writer Imran Sidiquee asks in his essay of the same name.Why do they overlook and underrepresent women of color in order to date white women is the question I ask.We see this in Master of None, The Big Sick, and Meet the Patels.In Master of None, the very charming Sara (played by Clare-Hope Ashitey), a black British woman, makes an appearance in the first episode of the second season.I myself have a mixed family and mixed-race cousins. But there’s a huge difference between brown men dating white women and brown women dating white men.Many of my south Asian friends date non-south Asian people. To hear many of my brown girlfriends tell it, dating a south Asian man comes with cultural baggage—like being tied to a patriarchal set of rules that keeps you firmly mired in specific, oppressive gender roles.I asked writer and performer Neil Sharma, co-director of the comedy group Deadass, what he thought about this response. “Yes, I think it’s probably easier to sell a story with one white lead, but I don’t think that means that these are always how those stories need to go.As a brown person, I would freakin’ love to see a rom-com starring two POCs.