So, at 35, and still yet to find the right man to marry, would the online dating world be full of desperate souls seeking marriage so their lives could begin?Or maybe I’d turn out to be one of those fortunate ones who shares in their wedding toast, ‘My husband is the best thing I found on the Internet.’For two months I would trial online agencies from my current home in a small town in northern California.Twenty years on from the launch of the first online dating site, Match.com, perceptions (and usage) of Internet dating have changed significantly.Much of the original stigma seems to be slipping away, and according to the Online Dating Association, online dating is now the most common way in which relationships in the UK get started.
I had selected men in the age range 28–41, and was paired with quite a few.
By the fourth step in the process, I was halfway through the first month of my subscription. This issue is not applicable purely to online Christian dating, of course, but these dating sites, I’m learning, are often where men with this sort of outlook end up.
As my London girlfriends and I started trying out exclusively Christian dating sites, such as Christian Connection, Christian Cafe and Christian Crush, the line ‘Faces that only their mother would love’ was whispered among the three of us. While many Christians have found long-term love through Christian dating sites, I’ve also heard stories of the same Christian men existing on these sites for years. Online dating creates naturally (and thankfully) more options than our local town may provide, which can catalyse the desire to be fine-tuned and higher in goal-setting – and that’s where all this gets interesting.
I would sign up to both secular and exclusively Christian websites, both paid and free, adding in the latest craze of ‘hook-up’ dating apps.
On every dating site or app I tried, I would clearly state that I was a Christian, and that spirituality was ‘very important’ to me.