In general, the private messages sent on this site are far more detailed and personal than those of Tinder or Bumble, usually going far past “Hey, what’s up?
” It’s very clear that the majority of men on this site are looking for love (in all the right places).
I’ve never been into online dating, so signing up for any app was daunting.
That being said, though, I’m not one to half-ass a project.
I did, however, test out a bunch of different conversation starters to see which get the best responses. Also, I saw several different guys who were active on both Tinder and Bumble.
My first day, I sent out ten straight-up “Hey, how’s it going? Okay, then a 40% success rate.) Below, in descending order, I ranked a list of five of the opening lines I attempted. A lot of them had slightly different profiles to appeal to the slightly different clientele on each app, which I thought was a little weird.
boasts that “everyone knows someone who’s found love on Match.com! It’s a very detailed profile system, and I have the highest respect for their dedication to authenticity and comfort.
Plus, no one can start a conversation with you unless you’ve already liked (or “swiped right”) them, which theoretically limits the chances of creeps (key word: theoretically). Some of them were incredibly sweet, even if they were sweet in a cringe-inducingly cheesy way (No, I’m not a Charlie’s Angel).
I’ve heard the success stories, but I’ve also heard the horror stories – as, I’m sure, have you.
Thankfully, though, Tinder is super easy to get the hang of.
I sincerely believe that Tinder is a great way to realize just how many fish are in the sea, even if that only serves you the purpose of realizing they’re not quite the fish you’re looking for. ” – 75% response rate The high: Bumble is genuinely full of nice guys.
The low(s): There was the guy who told me he wrote me a “poem,” which turned out to be an unbelievably offensive piece of pornography that prompted me to feel like I needed to simultaneously take a shower and scream into a pillow; and of course there was the disturbingly high amount of men I accidentally “super liked.” I thought you could only “Pass” (left swipe) or “Like” (right swipe), but no – if you swipe “up,” it notifies the guy that you “Super Like” him. The fact that they know they have to wait for female-initiated conversation is a pretty good indicator that they are aware that most girls on this app are not looking for a one-time hook-up.