Basically, she comes to realize that maleness comes with privileges but also that society's strict imposition of the male gender role also harms men. Throughout her account, Vincent flirts with the ideas of gender essentialism versus gender as presentation.Indeed, while she makes several claims about Inherent Traits of Men, one wonders how exactly Vincent is able to separate the traits of masculine that men are taught versus the ones they are allegedly born with because they are men.Whether it's making rape jokes or bragging about which women they're going to stick their enormous dicks in next, when men are "doing masculinity" they are often actually using women to gain status among other men.Almost immediately, Vincent begins comparing male and female social behavior.The inextricability between biology and social construction becomes more evident the more Vincent recounts.She claims, for instance, that she "rarely if ever interacted in any significant way with anyone (even store clerks) who didn't treat [her] and the people around [her] in a gender-coded way" (223).
In the beginning of her experiment, she was very worried about her disguise being passable enough.
In her account, Self-Made Man, she tells of her experience presenting as a man, whom she calls "Ned," in various social venues such as on a bowling team, in the hetero dating world, in a monastery, in the workplace, and in a men's group.
To those who follow feminism or gender studies, Vincent's insights are not all that startling.
Men perform masculinity to win favor from men of high social standing.
And yet, throughout Vincent's account, men play the "masculinity" game in nearly every social situation that they are in.