), do you want a verbal reaming or a light spanking on the butt?
Same goes for when you're playing a role that triggers an emotional response.
But for beginners, Laurie Watson, a sex therapist in North Carolina, says a trick that always works for her clients is heading to a hotel bar and pretending to be strangers picking each other up for the first time—just make sure one of you reserves a room ahead of time.
Then, there are always classic power dynamics to fall back on, like cop and criminal or doctor and patient—take your pick.
Telling your partner that you have a doctor fantasy isn't enough—through no fault of your partner's, you could find yourself in the company of Dr. "Maybe a doctor is sexy to you because he's in control but generally clinical and sort of cold, so the idea of roiling his passion through your desirability is sexy," says Kerner.
Okay, sure, but how to describe this without feeling foolish?
And like Rose, you can (and should) turn to past experiences for inspiration.
I've been in a loving relationship with my fiancé, Christopher, for more than a year now.(Unless you really do want to sleep with the mailman.If that's the case, that's a whole other story.)Once you've brought up the what, it's time to explain the why—and yes, sorry, this part is nonnegotiable! If you want to have a truly sexy experience, you have to describe what it is about that particular scenario that gets you going (the better you explain your fantasy, the more likely it is to come to life in a way that gets you off rather than makes you feel weird).What if your partner thinks that you need him to take on a different persona in order to get turned on or that your wandering mind means you have a wandering eye too?Well, Kerner has a trick for that—bring up your fantasy as a compliment.Here's their advice and how I put it to the test.1.First, Figure Out Your Fantasy If you already have a sexy scenario in mind, you can skip ahead…show-offs!Surely, a sexpert like myself would have tried her hand at some erotic theater, right? What if I started giggling…or worse, what if he started laughing at me?In fact, I've never come even remotely close to playing make-believe in the bedroom. It's challenging enough to feel comfortable being yourself during sex, let alone someone else. All these anxieties have kept me from giving it a try, until now.The owners of this site are not, in any way, responsible for the materials that are posted, said, and/or downloaded within chat.Content on the site is managed by the users and RPH is not responsable for it.