How’s this for kismet: One fateful day in 1966, singer Tony Bennett met and took a photo with a couple after one of his shows.Little did Bennett know at the time, his future wife was there, too: She was the baby growing inside the belly of the female fan.Online dating stats bare out that average joes are just as enamored with younger women as their famous counterparts.Each example disgusts me anew in a way that’s probably not entirely defensible: I think I might be angrier about these couples than I am about a good many important political issues.Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.I know this firsthand, as I’m 25 years old, and I’ve been dating an older guy nearly 15 years my senior for almost four years.It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.
A Rohingya refugee woman with her child walks on the muddy path after crossing the Bangladesh-Myanmar border in Teknaf, Bangladesh, September 7, 2017.While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.For most of us, in dating those things kind of go out the window, but then people tend to pair off with partners at about the same attractiveness level that they occupy. The pretense of finding someone who can be a partner and equal disappears; women both young and old get to see that all that really matters is how you look in a bikini.Meanwhile, women also watch their romantic options shrink as they age—a similar amount of money or power on their part usually doesn’t bring all the boys to the yard in quite the same way.quality=70&strip=all&w=300" data-large-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2015/02/preschool.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=720" / Logan Boulet – Humboldt bus crash victim " data-medium-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/04/logan-boulet-web.jpg? " data-medium-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/01/18166770-e1516588623209.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=300" data-large-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/01/18166770-e1516588623209.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=650" / Shauna Nordstrom pictured with her son Logan Hunter.quality=70&strip=all&w=300" data-large-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/04/logan-boulet-web.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=720" / Kinder Morgan Trans Mountain Expansion Project’s Westeridge loading dock is seen in Burnaby, B. " data-medium-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/04/04-08-loganhunter.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=300" data-large-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2018/04/04-08-loganhunter.jpg? Bennett and Benedetto may make for a particularly striking example (“Lovely fetus you’ve got there, ma’am, here’s my number, have it call it me in 18 years or so”), but older men getting romantically involved with younger women is hardly a rare phenomenon.Every day, there seems to be another outrageous new celebrity coupling announced via pictures of some May-December frolicking: Jennifer Lawrence sharing a lollipop with Darren Aronofsky; Sean Penn dating Vincent D’Onofrio’s daughter; Mel Gibson having his ninth child with his 26-year-old girlfriend; Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen double-dating with their 47-year-old and 58-year-old respective beaus; Leonardo Di Caprio’s sending another lady-love packing upon her reaching the ripe old age of 25.Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.