Some guys will be genuinely interested in you as a person, some will want a girlfriend to practice English with, and some will view you as a trophy.Since Western guys also have very similar motives in dating, you will probably be able to easily tell which type of guy you are talking to.It is the most undeniable, indisputable fact about being a Westerner trying to make relationships work in Asia.Now, some of you don’t know me but I don’t dress provocatively. Yes it is harsh, but I find it’s also something that women in AMWF relationships on the blogosphere don’t write about enough.They were doing what I was doing but they were doing it in a language totally foreign to them and while living far away from their family and friends in a culture that was totally new to them.Hard work has always been sexy to me and these guys were the opposite of the privileged white male (or female, for that matter). My mother was divorced when I was four years old and some of the only father figures I had in my life were Asian men.I mean, I’ve always been the introverted type and have never been much of a party-girl but for me and my standards, I was going all out. By the time I had been in Korea about 7 or 8 months, I looked around and noticed I knew quite a number of other Western girls who had also been burned and disillusioned from their experiences with dating Korean men. Dating in Korea: What Every Woman Should Know 1.) Get Yourself A Korean Bestie and Pour Your Little Heart Out* Nobody will be able to give you dating advice in Korea better than another Korean and your best bet is to have a Korean girlfriend who is around your age. I’m on a long distance bus ride with one of my Korean co-workers who would end up being one of my closest friends and we’re talking about dating.
Koreans tend not to introduce their boyfriends/girlfriends to their parents unless they are planning to marry.If you do, you are just cementing an already established stereotype into the mind of the collective cultural mindset.There are countless coffee shops, restaurants, and bars in South Korea.2.) Remember That Western Women Have a Reputation in Asia I would estimate that at least half of my first dates in Korea ended up with the guy trying to have sex with me.Sometimes this would happen after I had very long open conversations with him about the fact that I was tired of the reputation that Western women have in Korea and that I wasn’t interested in casual sex!Actually, this almost always happened after having this conversation because I almost always had this conversation and yet still, 50% of my first dates ended in the guy seriously trying to hit a home run.Western women like sex and they have sex a lot, this is what Asian guys think.Also, it can be very difficult for Korean parents to accept that their beloved son wants to eventually give them grandchildren with foreign blood.If your boyfriend is the oldest son, or worse yet, the only son, be prepared for many arguements and lots of tears. You will have to be understanding when he needs to go home every night to his parents. If you both fall in love with each other, you have a difficult storm to navigate through. Your boyfriend will eventually have to make a choice between you and his family.If fact, there are so many issues around this, that I could probably create another website devoted to just that.I’ve never written about dating before on this blog.