After a huge argument he said he was looking at porn and crashed his computer because he knew Iâd be upset.
We had our 1st proper massive fight in the whole 5 years we have been together and he promised he would never hurt me again and that I am his rock, his best friend, his soul mate and the love of his life and he was being inconsiderate of my feelings .
Q: I made the mistake of clicking on a little email window that popped up on my husband's computer.
I discovered that he's been surfing porn sites and going to chat rooms to have sex with other women online.
Married couples walk a fine line between cooperation with each other and control of each other when it comes to sex.
You may want the help of a sex therapist to unravel this tangled situation and reassemble a situation that works for both of you.
But Something just wasnât feeling right in my mind and I knew he was lying about what he had been doing.
Anyway to cut the story short I managed to reset a password to an email account I had found but never expected to find that he was registered to 3 online dating chat sites (which he had set up 1 month before we got married) He had even set his profile as single and even posted a picture of himself to someone (not a rude one but a photo all the same).
This situation underlines the importance of checking in with one's spouse or partner about the various aspects of long-term relationships: finances, in-laws, jobs, children (if any), housekeeping, plans, and sex. So, even though you said your vows and have been together for a while, it sounds like the topic of online chatting and surfing porn sites never came up.People assume that because they are with a person they know pretty well, they also know how their mate feels about these topics. Sit down with your husband to have this discussion.If he has sexual desires that he talks about with women online, then ask him to tell you what those are. Are there risks that you might be willing to take in terms of new behavior?He says he never talked dirty and at the most a bit flirty (which I find hard to believe on an online dating site) and he was never turned on by anyone.Itâs now been a week and we have talked and cried so much but I feel so sick inside that I canât eat, sleep or work and am having suicidal thoughts. He says he will do anything to show me that Iâm everything to him. And he was so sick, throwing up, not eating, not sleeping.He works 14 hour days He works full time and then comes home to work on his business which he hopes to make a success for us so we can have the life we have always talked and dreamed about.He says he only ever went on a couple of times when he had had an awful day and that it made him feel better to exaggerate his life -a nice car, big house etc.The most commonly used dating websites amongst those in relationships were Plenty of Fish (43 per cent), followed by the dating app Tinder (37 per cent) while 29 per cent even paid to be members of I got married to the love of my life a year ago and a few weeks ago I walked in on my husband and saw something on the computer and asked him what it was, he panicked and shut the computer down.He is extremely sorry and I know he loves me but I feel like although he has not physically cheated on me he has mentally. He says he hasnât been on since I nearly caught him (when he crashed the computer)and that he was never going to again but all I think is what about if I hadnât caught him, in 10 years time he could still be doing it. There was a patch in the beginning of my relationship with my husband where his mother forced him (we were 16 and 17, so yes she could force him) to break up with me. At the time I was pregnant and it was an additional blow I did not need. I could tell he was sorry and did not want to break up with me.He is everything to me, my best friend, my husband, my life. He shut down all 3 profiles and his email account in front of me. A man just does not get physically sick like that due to emotions.