With the gender imbalance, some look to marrying non-Christians in order to have love and family.
They point out that character is more important and that there is no guarantee of good relationships just because of marrying a Christian.
I would find it extremely difficult not to be able to share that vital part of my life with someone I love.''A partnership should have God at the centre and have shared life vision and love for God.
I cannot imagine compartmentalising my faith; if the other person didn't love Jesus too it would be denying my true self.
The church needs to teach men how to be real men and real biblical teaching about what it means to be a follower of Christ.
To teach them how to love women and to stay away from the evils of this world.''I was taught that it is wrong to marry a non-Christian and I would find it hard to marry someone who I wouldn't be able to talk about their and my faith. However I have heard of people who have married non-Christians and their partners have become Christians and one friend of mine has a husband who is more supportive about her faith than many of my Christian friends' Christian husbands are.''I do believe in the concept of flirt to convert!
I can only assume that God has something better planned.''Yes, I have been in a relationship with a non-Christian that was a friend for a couple years then all of a sudden we ended up realising how much we were smitten with each other and the magnetism is beyond powerful.The best relationship I have ever had was with a non-Christian, but I ended it for the above reasons and am still not sure I did the right thing.''I broke up with someone because they were not a Christian, but now I wonder if in the future I would make the same choice.I always felt strongly that I wanted to be with a Christian but as time goes on I am more open to other ideas...''I LOVED a non-Christian, I was told if I were to marry him, my dear mentor would stand up for me in the church and resist the wedding. But at the same time I want and still hold out for a CHRISTIAN MAN.I think it would bring hardship and so I feel it would be better to be single.''I would rather marry a strong Christian so that we could support and encourage each other in our faith.I personally know of two men who married non-Christians, their wives are now both Christians too, so I wouldn't say I think marrying a non-Christian is always wrong.''Sincerely hope I remain true to my reply.Yet, we could have had kids and made a GO of LIFE.''It depends exactly on the definition of 'Christian'.I would probably want to marry somebody who has an outlook in which every individual is valued, and where goodness, fairness and honesty are prized as things to be encouraged, and where ambition and self-interest are never put above anything that is wrong.Ideally, I'd love to be with a Christian, I think that it's right by God, but it's exceptionally tough.''I really don't want to be single, but I also know I don't want to marry a non-Christian.I have given a few close friends permission to hold me accountable on this and to give me a very hard time if they see me slip.''Have met some lovely caring men along the way but they did not share my faith and conversely some Christian men who shared my faith but who I did not love.But again they report a lack of support by churches should they decide to do so – even in helping to create the possibility of conversion.Experience of non-Christian marriages from which they were now divorced (16%) 'I have had non-Christian boyfriends in the past, and my faith has always been the reason they have broken up with me.