Some claim you should always wait 15 minutes, others insist on only replying to every other text, while others still dismiss "playing games" as ridiculous and advocate replying however you feel like in the moment. It will either make you come across as needy and too easy, or else cold and too distant.
In order to time your texts so that you convey your best self, you will need to be two things: genuine and realistic.
Being genuine will prevent you from seeming uninterested or boring, while being realistic will prevent you from seeming desperate. If you get a text from a guy that you like, and you genuinely have a free moment to reply, don't play games by artificially prolonging your response.
Furthermore, your authenticity will show a man your true self, while your realism will keep in check your tendency to be too forthcoming. This might be "successful" in the sense that it will occasionally keep a man on the hook for a time, but this is only because he wants to prove that you want him; it doesn't make him enjoy you any more.
Advocates also elucidate that a woman making herself easily available to men may increase her chances of being unconsciously or unscrupulously taken advantage of or abused.
By applying a deliberate approach to relationships, Rules champions suggest, a woman has the time and space to discover and reflect upon the character and actions of a man she is dating.
So when he texts, answer him naturally, genuinely, authentically.Since I've already explained how you should reply to a man's texts, the obvious follow-up is to explain when to reply to a man's texts.You've probably heard all kinds of suggestions from other girls about how long to wait before replying to a text from a guy you like.though there is no body of evidence to support this.Another criticism is that because The Rules advise rarely returning phone calls and other such hard-to-get dating methods, some men may have trouble telling the difference between a woman who is genuinely not interested (or not interested anymore) and one who is genuinely interested, thus leading to misunderstandings and stalkers; not only for women using The Rules, but any man who believes all women are playing similar games even when they are not.Once we are "friends" we will immediately start seeing each other like ugly, wrinkled old men and women.Oh, and also, most importantly: the "just friends" thing will be especially workable because my future girlfriend or wife will be overjoyed that I am still great friends with an ex.Women never get jealous of one another - you and she will probably be close friends someday. So if a guy dumps you and says "let's just be friends," or suggests that you stay in touch, recognize that what he really means is one of the three numbered statements above, or some combination of the three.If, after being dumped, you find yourself tempted to convince your ex to be "just friends" or to "stay in touch" (because he still "means a lot to you"), acknowledge the fact that you really just want to hold on to some fraction of what once was, even if it is nothing like a real relationship and will actually hurt you in the long run. ------------------------------------- If you liked this post, you'll definitely like my book, Beyond the Breakup, which explains everything you need to know about dealing with you ex: what he's thinking, what is motivating him to stay friends with you, how to maximize your chances of getting him back, and how to focus on your future if that doesn't happen.Others noted that Fein was an accountant and Schneider a freelance journalist without professional qualification in the subject matter.Fein married and divorced, and has recently remarried. The authors admitted they were not professionals in an appearance on NBC's The Today Show.