Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.
If on the other hand the date is going excellent, suggest to your date that you extend it.
I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.
In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.
In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.
This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.
Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
That sounds amusing but many online daters dwell on internet communication overly long. They wanted me to get the show on the road and they were right to feel that way.
If they you not break your plans you may want to evaluate how well the date is going!A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay.After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.If this happens to you, wait a few days (continuing the email conversations) and then ask again.Unless a good reason is give for not meeting, I would not ask more than three times – there are some people out there who are looking to make online friends or live fantasies out in their head without any intention of actually meeting.