Like electronic abuse, stalking can be an issue with domestic violence, because even from a distance, the actions are used to control and create fear without violence, Johnston said.
“I think we see a lot the mental stuff playing out on campus like the jealousy issues,” Malsam said.
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When it comes to domestic violence, numbers can be deceiving. Lonnie Chavez of the Grand Junction Police Department, domestic violence cases do not paint an accurate picture by themselves because the incidents are not crimes –– they are crime enhancers.
So it’s all around us but if we don’t talk about, we don’t see it.” On college campuses, for example, many domestic violence cases that officials see are more nonphysical, like stalking, verbal abuse or electronic abuse.
According to Chavez, using electronics — like texting and email — creates a problem, because offenders think that it is okay since it is not face to face and people don’t think that it is as threatening via text message.
Coupled with the Department of Justice’s estimation that only 38% of domestic violence incidents are reported to the police, this means that many students on campus experience abuse without support.“Our culture is set up so we have different blinders for it.[Watching television] there is violence in all of it, we just don’t watch for it because it seems like that is okay because that is how our society is set up,” Malsam said. We can watch a show and see domestic violence happening in front of us and not recognize it.” “I think this is a problem everywhere and the fact that we don’t really talk about it,” Malsam said.“Students are the most at risk for dating violence, because they aren’t experienced to see what red flags there are, and what is dangerous and abusive,” said Linda Johnston, director of the Ending of Violence Against Women Project. People think it has to be physical, but it can be verbal — it is just a different form of abuse.” Because students do not always know what is normal in a relationship, according to Johnston, the offenders can make excuses for the abuse with reasons like love, and often blame the victim for bringing on the abuse.For this reason, many domestic violence crimes do not get reported because the victim will be fearful to report or leave the offender.“Seven out of 10 [people abused] will say that nothing happened, that it was just an argument,” Chavez said.“It makes it difficult because we can’t do anything and we know it is happening, but there is nothing we can do [if they don’t report it].” According to law enforcement and academic officials, the statistics fluctuate according to the size of the university.“In dating situations, which sometimes jealousy is healthy and normal, and sometimes it crosses a boundary into being over protective, isolating, and manipulative.It is things that make us a little more uncomfortable, but that isn’t to say that there isn’t physical violence that is happening as well.” For victims, leaving isn’t always the simplest solution to domestic violence.It happens all the way up: race, age, education,” Humphrey said.“Whatever work you do, whether you work a six figure job or work minimum wage, domestic violence doesn’t care.” That includes students. That doesn’t mean it’s happening any more than anywhere else.