He told me he had been separated for almost 2 years. We finally started talking on the phone in early February 2010 and would talk for hours every day.
He said he wanted to move to my town, he was currently living in Austin. We talked every day for usually an hour, went on a few vacations, he came for a month and I spent time in Austin.Maybe not much different at all, but maybe we missed out on something special. Regardless of how things might have been, sometimes “what ifs” can break your heart. Recently my Mom mentioned that the guy I had a major crush for in high school was playing Bridge in her bridge club. My heart started to race as I remembered this gorgeous guy and his wavy, dark, sexy hair. We met for coffee where the man in question spent 99% of the hour we were together talking about his last relationship.The final instance that comes to mind is, to me, the more poignant. When we were seniors, the weekend before we graduated, we were at the same party.This past weekend I found out he has been lying to all of us. I was happy and financially solid before he came in my life. I can think of three things that stand out: While trying to contact classmates for our 30th reunion, I found myself chatting on the phone with a guy I’d had a crush on all those years ago.Not only am I emotionally hurt, but now I am financially committed to a house I can’t afford on my own and mentally wounded. We got to the point where we went out a couple of times and talked to each other daily, and then he suddenly stopped talking to me.He’s still good looking and has a successful business.I waited a few days and since he didn’t connect, I sent him a friendly, “let’s catch up” email. He’s looked at my profile several times since, but I won’t be initiating contact again. I am curious to see if he has the same solid character he did as a teenager.Have you ever daydreamed about an old sweetheart from decades ago? Years ago, when I was married, I got a call from a man I lived with for a year right out of college. They had lost touch and hit it off again instantly at the reunion. She said she’d love to keep in touch, so he called the next week. He began to woo her and a year later, they were married.