Not so, says University of Chicago Booth School of Business professor Nicholas Epley.
In his study of 104 couples, he asked one partner to predict how the other would respond to questions on everything from the use of cash to biggest life regret.
taking a catnap while your toddler plays video games on his cell phone? And not just to calm yourself down, either, though that's a helpful side effect.
Experiments by Harvard researchers, writes Epley, demonstrated that when questioned immediately post-bust, people tended to lie due to their dread of punishment.
The next time he gets a promotion, invents a new marinade for the grill or wins first prize at the adults-only spelling bee, do more than say, "Hooray, Honey!
" As this handy graphic from the self-improvement website explains, couples who celebrated each other's successes in four steps—showing enthusiasm ("A spelling bee! "); asking questions ("So, 'babushka' counted even though it's Russian? "); and, reliving the moment with them ("So, what exactly went through your mind when you heard psychoneuroendocrinological? Further research proved that "people who did this three times a day for one week improved their happiness." And happiness, as we know—scientific studies or not—usually leads to a lot of more happily ever afters.
You two need to decide on something big together: Should you buy that house? Or you could borrow a technique suggested by Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon, who consult with corporations on how to plan strategic meetings.
Below, we've rounded up some of the best advice on that thread, so you can navigate your next first date or the next decade of your marriage with confidence.Each week, as Bryant describes, the CEO of the social-networking site Foursquare, Dennis Crowley, sends an email to his whole company.The email has three parts "Things I'm Psyched About," "Things I'm Not Pysched About" and "Things I'm Working On," as well as a list of links to random things he finds interesting.This doesn't mean you don't think interesting things or long to share them with your spouse.The next time you stumble on, say, how to make a penny ball that repels slugs, make sure you share it with your husband, the gardener, by using a technique reported on by Adam Bryant in Quick and Nimble: Lessons from Leading CEOs on How to Create a Culture of Innovation.Listen, we know love and sex and friendship and, well, just about any relationship in your life can be complicated.That's why we've rounded up some of the best relationship advice and tips we could find to help you out.Leigh Newman is the deputy editor at and the author of Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown Up World, One Long Journey Home.Relationships are hard, and a sentence worth of wisdom won't change that. Over on Reddit, thousands of people have answered the question, "What's the best relationship advice you have ever heard?Some of the spouses simply guessed (e.g.,"Ernie would never use a credit card! Others had to write about a typical day in their partner's life, and then "put themselves in his or her shoes" before predicting (e.g., "Ernie works so hard all day at the bank, and he resents even paying five dollars for lunch; he would never use a credit card.") The result: Those who tried to imagine the other's perspective were less accurate than those who winged it—confirming Epley's real-life experience of giving his dolphin-loving wife a day of caring for the animals at the aquarium, not realizing that, since she'd just had a baby, she would not enjoy the binding, full-body wetsuit.While understanding that your partner may have a different take than you is helpful, he writes in Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, you don't always imagine your partner's actual "different take." The best way to get your partner's point of view, he says, is to simply—oh yes, you saw this coming—ask for it.... Because sure, you want to pounce on him when you catch him in a jerky act—smoking a cigarette out the window?