But two years later, as I write this from the apartment that Jessi and I call home, I know that trying something I had no idea about turned out to be the best idea I ever had. Join the discussion by posting a comment below or tweeting #TEDWeekends.Interested in blogging for a future edition of TED Weekends? I was at the point in my life where I was truly my own best friend. Is it crazy to say that I was so captivated by the opening line of someone's dating profile that I actually had the tiniest inkling my life was about to change?I felt whole on my own, but I knew that I was ready to share my life with someone -- if I met the right someone. It is crazy, but what's even crazier is that (unbeknownst to me) that profile was created less than two hours before I came across it. Let me rewind about six months to a night where I found myself bored and curious and.. Like I said, I was pretty naïve about the whole online dating thing, and for some reason was under the false impression that offered free trials. ) I filled out my profile and uploaded some pictures "just to see what's out there," but when it took me to the payment page, I closed the browser and never logged back on.But curiosity got the best of her, and she created an Ok Cupid account -- honestly believing she would never log on again.
I would have never met him had I not I not taken a risk and added him as a friend.At the very least, I could see what was out there, meet some interesting people, and have some fun.Over the next few months, I met and dated a few really memorable women.There were the positive moments -- feeling butterflies for the first time in awhile, hilarious conversations after long nights, trips to Pride and gay bars and hanging out with one woman's huge group of gay friends.But of course, there were the not-so-great moments -- the messages unanswered, the time I got really attached to someone and got hurt, and the time someone got really attached to me and I had to end it because I didn't reciprocate her feelings.And in an instance of what I can only call serendipity, that someone also happened to have a account six months earlier.Jessi told me on our third date that when I messaged her on Ok Cupid, she immediately recognized me as "that bitch that never answered me on " I guess all those emails with the subject line: "She winked at you! " weren't just ploys to get me to pay for an account, after all -- though that's what I thought when I routinely deleted them without reading.In the end, though, these were all just experiences that made me that much more ready to meet the right someone.That someone, as it turns out, lives life to a soundtrack in her head -- just like me.Speaking of online dating naïveté, Jessi had never heard of Ok Cupid until the summer of 2012, when she read about it in Cosmo.She had just cancelled her account and sworn off dating until October, after her own series of dating ups and downs.