But anyway.) It’s just so transparent, watching one of these paragons of fragile masculinity take his male privilege out for a spin and realize he can date someone so young she won’t know how inappropriate it is. Why not father a child you’ll be too old to raise properly while you’re at it?The exact ages and differentials vary, but each one reinforces one important point: Women get less valuable as they age, while men just get to enjoy the ride.She’s a woman, not a child, after all - even if she is your daughter’s age. “When I was your age...” “Young people are so ____.” “Oh you weren't even BORN when this album was released.” “You were still a toddler in 1989?E Yes, it's gross and it doesn't need to be pointed out. Don’t assume you know better Keep a check on your tone; is it supportive or patronising?Older men who date much younger women make the transactional, hierarchical nature of romance explicit and reveal the extent to which men and women are still playing by very different rulebooks.
Every day, there seems to be another outrageous new celebrity coupling announced via pictures of some May-December frolicking: Jennifer Lawrence sharing a lollipop with Darren Aronofsky; Sean Penn dating Vincent D’Onofrio’s daughter; Mel Gibson having his ninth child with his 26-year-old girlfriend; Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen double-dating with their 47-year-old and 58-year-old respective beaus; Leonardo Di Caprio’s sending another lady-love packing upon her reaching the ripe old age of 25.For most of us, in dating those things kind of go out the window, but then people tend to pair off with partners at about the same attractiveness level that they occupy. The pretense of finding someone who can be a partner and equal disappears; women both young and old get to see that all that really matters is how you look in a bikini.Meanwhile, women also watch their romantic options shrink as they age—a similar amount of money or power on their part usually doesn’t bring all the boys to the yard in quite the same way.Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.From salt-and-pepper George Clooneys to silver-fox Harrison Fords, young women are swooning over smooth older men more than ever.Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.She may be younger, but her feelings are just as genuine as yours. Do establish boundaries In some rather obvious ways you’re at different stages of life, so if you're just enjoying a fling make sure she isn't shopping for wedding dresses.Twenties = shock; thirties = chic; forties and beyond = cheque. Leave the trend-led streetwear to youngsters who need to compensate for a lack of personality or confidence. Now is the time for creating a capsule wardrobe, a slick canvas of smart pieces which make the most of the fact that you can now actually carry-off “suave” without looking like you're wearing your dad's wedding suit to a funeral.It's a common mistake for men, when faced with a saggy arse and uneven skin tone, to either give up completely or attempt to distract attention with a level of sartorial experimentation that smacks of desperation. Step away from Jack Wills and into Cos or Oliver Sweeney for simple, high-quality natural pieces that won’t swamp your distinguished features. Don't wear a watch that looks like a bedazzled dump-truck tyre Interesting philosophical question: Do dumbass guys buy obscenely large watches, or do obscenley large watches make a guy look like a dumbass?These days the idea of young women dating older – often significantly older - men barely raises an eyebrow. A long stints in an asylum for the criminally insane? But just because she hasn’t shared a similar experience, don't feel that she wouldn't relate to your life or your issues; open up and you never know what wisdom she could offer.But just because you were her age once, it doesn’t mean that dating a young woman is always plain sailing. Whatever the age gap, here’s how to date a younger women successfully. Youth might imply less experience, but it doesn’t mean a lack of empathy, nous and emotional intelligence.