If they want to have a relationship, they need to become the kind of person who can attract the person they're looking for.
So Mary goes online: "I like the idea that you know people in common, like on Hinge.I haven't done a woman yet." I asked Celia if she might look for her own second-chapter lesbian situation."It has been suggested to me as a potential route," she said.She's a television executive and has been dating for five years since her long-term marriage ended. "I got out of my marriage, and I felt so depleted," she said."Many women are working so hard, and their husbands aren't giving them enough.She's also a successful producer, is in her late 40s, has one teenager and has been in and out of relationships during the 10 years since her separation."I don't think I necessarily want to get married, but now, going into the next few decades, it would be great to have someone to be with," she said.My ex-husband has a much bigger pool than I do: He can date a woman in her 20s or 30s who wants to have another child; I don't want to have a baby now.Also, I think the financial thing plays into it a lot: My ex can date a billionaire or a waitress.But when I first went on that site, it was all guys in their 30s, and my age range [45 to 60] wasn't there.I've been on Tinder, where I'll only go out with someone if we have Facebook friends in common.