He should brush gently around your vaginal area, especially the opening.Then you can stimulate his body — try focusing on his nipples.Slip one under your hips so that during missionary-position intercourse, there's less opportunity for him to slip out.Plus, when he's performing oral sex on you, his neck won't get so cramped.
You might pull away and give each other a massage for a few minutes. Keep bringing yourselves close to orgasm, building to that peak, so that by the time you do finally climax, your orgasms will be all the more explosive." —Debora Peterson "Use each piece of furniture for a different sexual act or position.Do the following steps, alternating hands: Make a U-shape with your fingers and thumb at the bottom of his shaft and your palm facing away from you.Stroke up, and when you reach the head, twist over the top with as much of your palm in contact with the head of the penis as possible and come down the other side.All touching doesn't need to lead to sex, but it is a part of being physically intimate." —Brenda Venus, author of "As a rule, women take longer to get sexually aroused, so start by yourself before you get into bed.Spend 30 minutes taking a bath with candles and fondling yourself." —Debora Peterson, coauthor with Thom E.One thing a woman can do: Offer valuable feedback without saying a word.Wrap your hand around one of his fingers or his penis, and when he does something you particularly like, give a squeeze, if you're not comfortable actually telling him.Just say, 'I'd really like it if you'd go down on me, but I haven't seen that happen yet. '" —Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph D, Oakland-based sex therapist and author of (Bantam, 1993) "You must believe that men find vaginal secretions to be aphrodisiacal.So stop worrying about vaginal odors and get used to the fact that men get turned on when they have oral sex with a woman." —Sue Johanson, Toronto-based sex educator and counselor and host of on WTN "If you are comfortable, hold your labia open so your man has better access while giving you oral sex.If you feel self-conscious about your body, do this semiclothed — wear one of his shirts completely unbuttoned; men love it when women borrow their clothes." —Lou Paget, creator of the Sexuality Seminars, a Beverly Hills-based company that offers educational seminars on how to make love "If you want to get your guy off orally, first spend some time stimulating his body from the navel to the knees with your hair. Then, focus your warm breath and kisses on the head of his penis and the part that's just beneath.For most men, the sensation is the same as if you had the entire penis in your mouth.