That means it’s a really good time to take a deep breath and make sure both feet are in contact with the ground.
If that seems to you like a downburst of rain on your parade, it isn’t meant to be.
Don't obsess over whether you're good enough for him.
Aki says the second date is "all about making sure that this guy is awesome enough for you, not the other way around." But be patient.
Here are two things to remember on a second date: Be cautious about getting too personal too soon.On the contrary, the purpose is to maximize your chances of creating a successful future relationship by pointing out potential hazards in the road.Danger arises when you treat a second date as a shot from a starter pistol to signal that the race for romance is on. That giddy feeling is awesome, but it can make you overthink. re really nervous, you tend to worry about how you come across so much that it seems self-involved," Frances says.Lauren Frances (@Laurens Love Rx), love coach and founder of The Institute of Romantic Research, has a solution: Concentrate on him during date No. So instead, "compliment what he's wearing, mirror his body language, ask him what he loves to do most.And after he answers a question, take a second to see if you can go deeper. Drill down like you're drilling for oil," she recommends. t be able to envision a real future with you."Now for the really tough part: Figuring out what to do!What person doesn't love to talk about themselves? "If he says he wants to open a gelato stand, find out what sparked that dream," Frances says. Aki suggests making conversation the main objective. "Don't worry about doing those really expensive or extravagant things that people want to tell their friends about." Beyer likes creative ideas that stand out, like a picnic. s never seen or done that you think he'd love based on what you know about him," she says.Furthermore, if there is a “race” to run, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. The truth is, a second date would be better described as a “second first date.” Think of it as version 1.5 of a new software release—mostly the same, but with slight upgrades and a few of the bugs worked out.For instance, the worst of the awkward uncertainty is behind you.Focus on those and you’ll be less likely to regret saying too much. Romantic attraction and sexual energy—which can show up anytime, ready or not—are a lot like rocket fuel. They possess the potential energy to lift you into orbit—or to explode in a ball of flame on the launch pad before you’re even aboard the ship.