there are so many men out there who have children and don't support them...every excuse in the book..guy who doesn't support his children..."i don't care what the reasons he has are"..not the kind of man i would have anything to do with..those men with all the excuses about the nasty ex...thats why you don't pay..a bank acct...deposit money monthly and give to the kids later..the majority of those who don't pay directly to the ex...don't pay anything period..they are just shirking thier responsibilities.a guy treats his children says volumes about him...i would "expect" a guy i was dating to be financially responsible for his kids..he wasn't..wouldn't have a chance with me..you shouldn't consider dating anyone who begrudged you doing so...dragon...
It should NOT matter if your paying child support/alimony on a child that is yours(? And why would it matter to ANY women rather your paying child support on a child when that is not really our business? Theres more to a man and a person than their money/looks/past lives/parenthood...
Alimony is a grey area for me....could mean he needed a better lawyer; but if he is paying like he was ordered....means he is responsible.
Its going to always be something that dating divorees have to come to terms with.
This year I came home four times from college and he was in town every single time.
After I went back to campus each time Mom said, ‘I never get to see you!
The kids are engaged, at least on some level, even when you don’t think they are.You are welcome to join us if you’d like.” Show respect and allow relationships to develop at their own pace. It also shows them their feelings are important to you, keeps the communication door open, and helps children put labels on their own emotions (which is very important for young children especially). It’s tempting, but doing so taps your child’s fears that they are losing you and gives the false impression to your dating partner that you are totally available to them. As your interest in the person grows, gradually become more intentional about finding time for your significant other and your kids to get together.Tread lightly at first and continue to monitor and process everyone’s fears or concerns. Since you can’t judge lasting love by physical accoutrements or initial biochemical attractions, you need an objective measure of the qualities, attributes, and character of the person you are looking for.How many guys are going to admit to being a dead beat dad?Not on a lot of profiles I've seen on internet dating sites!There were spouses before us..with it or don't date folks with kids or ex's. I pay my Child Support, I love my kids deeply, I see them regularly... But I recently got dumped by someone because it all made me "too poor". but they sure don't want to date you once they find out you're on a tight budget.If a gal has a problem with it....maybe you should run the other way. I see a lot of backslapping for the good dads that pay up. But in the real world, when are you actually going to know?When kids predate dating, the couple’s relationship inherently creates competing attachments.The choice to be with the dating partner or children generally means the other is left waiting … Even before dating, single parents begin a series of conversations with their children that ask, “What if I began dating? ” Periodically, they engage the conversation again and again: “What if Sara and I began dating regularly?This affected the things we could do, but we BOTH paid for vacations, meals out, groceries when we were together, gas, etc.A woman who is secure in her own ability to be a contributing member of a relationship is not going to be a problem.