So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.
Amber Soletti, founder of On Speed and Singleandthe
And then you learn that the same year you graduated college, he was wrapping up his freshman year—of high school.
Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work, but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
“Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.
“This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he’s unable to provide for and protect you.”Even worse, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner.
Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.drinking, flirting with women, and behaving like a frat boy may be the norm.So don’t be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you’d hope he would.We know from a lot of research that greater equality tends to make couples happier,” writes study author Dr.Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.Your biological clock is ticking away, meanwhile his might not even be turned on.Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.Be selective about your battles and learn to compromise on things that aren’t vital to your relationship, she recommends.If a lot of your guy’s friends are like him—young and single—going out to bars until 4 a.m.“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.