Allie looks up to Liz Lemon, Carrie Bradshaw and Jon Stewart; 2 ½ of which, she realizes, are fictional characters.
You can find out more about the high-brow television programs she watches over at her Twitter, @allierileyjones.
Above all, keep your head up, and know that there are infinitely more eligible bachelors outside your dorm than in it. Your fingers will never freeze in sub-zero January temperatures on your way to see your boy-toy. You probably have a lot of the same friends that live in your dorm, thus, making social plans together is easy. Good day, bad day: He’s always going to be down the hall (or up the stairs). If your man is of the Spencer Pratt variety, it’ll be much easier to keep tabs on him.
Now, perhaps you’re thinking, with all these pitfalls, why would I ever want to brave dormcest territory? (But please don’t put up with these shenanigans in the first place.) 5.
One time, we were messing around and he wanted to have sex but I said no.
He understood, but after that incident we were completely awkward around each other.” When a gal gets involved with a guy quickly, it can be difficult for both parties involved to know what the expectations for the hook-up are.
But is it wise to tap into this veritable meat market knowing there’s a risk of bumping into a foiled hook-up every time you want to walk down the hall to take a shower? Use these fixes for common dormcest pitfalls and you’ll be plunging headfirst into intra-dorm relationships before you can say, “Hey, I live on North Campus too!
But it’s important to remember that someone could easily fake their information.
It’s hard enough to sort through potential matches and evaluate whom you’d like to go out with, but many online daters get tripped up in other areas, too.
Let’s try to make some sense of the internet dating world by reviewing some big no-nos that everyone should avoid.
For example, it’s not normal to move in with a guy after dating for two weeks, but when you already essentially live together, it can be hard to find that separation you need in the early stages of the relationship.
Ava* reveals that her biggest problem with her boyfriend who lived in her dorm was that “we went from zero to living together in the span of about a week.” Charlotte* echoes her sentiment: “Being in the same dorm meant the only time my boyfriend and I had to spend apart was when we had class.” It’s easy to get caught up in such a convenient romance, spending Friday nights cuddled up with your guy watching reruns while your actual friends are out wondering if you’ve chosen to study abroad this semester without telling them. Make an effort to develop friends and interests that take you out of the dorm—that way if your romance ends, your life won’t! Shoshanna advises against falling into “dead routines” in a relationship.