I am sure that I am revealing my age, but most men, even young men, are thrilled to find a woman who knows how to cook--- not gourmet quality meals, men don't care about gourmet food-- but who can competently put a meal on the table with some consistency.
They are very happy when a woman is willing to show her love by caring for them.
You can imagine my surprise when many of the respondents had taken the time to write a few paragraphs.
Perhaps they were elated by the idea that, what it was THEY WANTED.
Most men would like to be married and to have a home and a family.
They will normally be very appreciative of a woman who is willing to make a home for them.
It seems that the more time passes, the more complicated people assume the answer to this type of question will get ("It was a simpler time back in my day..."), especially because gender roles, with each passing decade, become more relaxed and fluid.
Surely, though, while the answers may be different in some ways depending on the era, I believe there will always be timeless themes that emerge when this type of question is posed.
In Paleolithic times, cavemen were rumored to stay up late into the night with their fellow troglodytes, gnawing frustratedly on leftover bones and trying to unearth the answer to this most perplexing question.If they are decent and honorable human beings, men will show their appreciation in many ways, large and small.A man who shows no appreciation for a woman's efforts in the relationship is not worth keeping. A woman who wants to have a long-term relationship leading to marriage and family would do better to place character strengths ahead of sexual skills.A couple months ago, I did exactly that, but via Facebook.I emailed about 25 male friends and acquaintances -- mostly men in their 20's and 30's but a couple older men as well -- to ask them the following: "What do you, as a man, want?There are no right answers, only your truth." I heard back from 12 of them.I had asked for 100-word answers, knowing full well the difficulty of trying to encapsulate the answer to such a question via a Twitter-like response, but I wasn't so sure the men I reached out to would want to take the time to respond with much more than that, anyway (you know, that relationship-y stuff isn't always their favorite topic).That sounds a bit nebulous and it's going to mean something different for everyone, but it's a sentiment that was echoed by several respondents. As a man who is currently going through a divorce, this has been on my mind a lot lately. I'm a very successful, intelligent and somewhat Alpha male.(Oh yeah, and "less drama" from women was a common request.) Below is a collection of their responses. So I don't need you to tell me how to run my business, who my friends should be or how to live my life.If we are just hanging out and watching TV and you get a call, get up and take the call in another room if it going to be more than a minute or two. 3) If you ask me a question or for advice, really make sure that you want the answer. #3: For a man, the basics in a relationship involve, first and foremost, character. If their lives are well-organized and predictable, they will be content. They do not want relationships filled with drama and conflict and surprises.There is nothing worse than being asked for advice and then having your girlfriend get mad because you gave them an honest answer that they did not like. It is okay to be mad, but at some point please tell me why you are mad so I can either fix it or not repeat whatever I did to make you mad. A man wants a woman who is trustworthy to a fault, utterly responsible and reliable and totally loyal. If that is what a woman is offering they will start looking elsewhere. They do not like their relationship to feel like therapy.